Woman, Man and Intersex

19.06.2020 Posted in Red Writing No Comments

Dear reader if you have missed my previous post about How much research should you do for your book you can find it here.

If you have read some of my previous posts, you know that I’m working on a book The Choice of a Countess based on a true story of R.B. born Intersex. When I have first met R.B. and decided to write about her I did not know very much about Intersex. I was fascinated by R.B., the things she had been through in her life because of this condition she was with and her resiliance. However, it was the first time I was speaking with someone who was born both. None of my friends or people I have met so far were Intersex, at least they have never talked to me about it.

All I knew was that the word Hermaphrodite derived from the Greek legend about the water nymph Salamacis, who had fallen in love with the handsome son of Aphrodite and Hermes and asked the gods to unite them forever, being transformed into an androgynous form.

In order to write about R.B. it was important for me to learn and understand the Intersex individuals. The first thing I learnt, no matter how basic it sounds, is that hermaphroditism is different from transsexuality. These two things are often misunderstood. There is a difference between being born a man and wanting to become a woman and vice versa which may happen for a number of reasons, and born with XX and XY which is a malformation.

Many people are born with all sorts of malformations. Out of 25 people one is born with a malformation. Being born with two gonads is one of them. In the US there are about 1500-2000 Intersex born every year.

It is really unfortunate that in our society you have to be either a man or a woman. You have to tick a box to fit in. The Greek philosopher Plato wrote about the 3rd sex who were a part of the society and were just as numerous as women or men in the times when he lived.

I believe the time will come when they will be a part of our society and will be able to go to schools and work without being either a man or a woman.

To read an extract from the book The Choice of a Countess click here

To read more about research I did to write the book click here

To know more about R.B. click here

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